Stop bracing for the ping.
DreadNot handles your ex's emails
so you don't have to.
When your ex hits send, it hits your nervous system hard. But it doesn't have to. DreadNot intercepts and translates hostile emails from your ex. You get the logistics, not the gut punch.
Try it for yourself in the demo below. Click on each Guide to see how they would handle the same difficult email.
Sarah,
Pickup is 5 PM Friday, not 4. We agreed to this weeks ago, though I realize keeping track of details has never been your strong suit.
Emma's field trip Monday requires a signed permission slip, which I've already handled since I couldn't trust that you'd remember. The deadline was Tuesday, which I know you weren't aware of.
Soccer registration for next season opens this weekend. It's $127. I'd appreciate you covering it given that I've covered the last two seasons while you "sorted out your finances." I'll need a response on that before Sunday.
Also, the kids mentioned you've been letting them stay up late on school nights again. I'd appreciate you respecting the schedule we agreed on. It affects their mornings, which affects my mornings.
Please just try to stay on top of things. It would make everything a lot easier for everyone.
Mike
"My ex sends his worst emails during the night, so I used to hate checking emails in the morning. I’d delay it so much that I didn’t really start my day until 9:30 or 10:00. With DreadNot I get up, I check in with the world, and I start my day on my own terms."
— Lily, DreadNot user
How DreadNot works.
The Intercept
You tell DreadNot which email addresses are causing you dread, whether the messages are snarky, hurtful, or just plain exhausting. When they send a message, it's intercepted before it ever reaches your inbox.
The Translation
Your DreadNot Guide reads the message for you. They sift out the insults, the emotional bait, and the nonsense, while capturing all the important facts. You get the substance without the sting.
The Delivery
You receive a clean, calm version of the email. No more toxic tone. No more passive-aggressive jabs. Just every date, every deadline, and every detail you actually need, without derailing your day.
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Meet the Guides.
Each one translates in their own style. You choose the voice that feels best for you.
Ace is the guy at the door making sure only the good vibes get in. Count on him to keep your inbox chill.
Handles your ex's communications efficiently, always with your interests front of mind. Keep your eye on your own life and career, not on whatever they're trying to start.
Strips out the noise from your emails and delivers exactly what was said, nothing more. Stay focused on your own deadlines, not their emergencies.
Takes different perspectives to show you what's actually being communicated, not just what was said. Less reactivity, clearer thinking, and better outcomes all around.
Reads the emotional dynamics beneath every message and edits out the performance, so you get the substance without the theater. You stop being cast in their story.
Understands the structure of the communications and builds the boundaries that protect your peace. You'll feel solid ground beneath you, perhaps for the first time in a while.
Gently surfaces the growth hidden in every difficult exchange. Over time, you'll find yourself less reactive, more grounded, and clearer about who you're becoming.
14 days free.
No credit card required
Two levels of protection.
The Shield
Monthly billing · after free trial
- ✓ Protect against 1 sender
- ✓ Ace translates every message
- ✓ Reply from your dashboard or regular email
- ✓ Weekly communication tips from Ace
- ✓ Works with Gmail & Outlook
The Sanctuary
Monthly billing · after free trial
- ✓ Protect against unlimited senders
- ✓ Choose from 6 expert Guides (switch any time)
- ✓ Your Guide drafts replies or reviews yours
- ✓ Reply from your dashboard or regular email
- ✓ Weekly insights from all 6 Guides
- ✓ Works with Gmail & Outlook
10 minute set up, lifetime freedom.
Setting up DreadNot takes less than 10 minutes. Connect your Gmail or Outlook, choose your Guide, and it runs quietly in the background, giving you control of your inbox and peace of mind, forever.
DreadNot is your secret superpower.
You reply from your normal email address and your reply attaches to their original message, just like you'd read it and replied directly. They never know you're using DreadNot. They just know that their old tricks don't work anymore.
Why we built DreadNot.
Hi! We're Erin and Eric, co-founders of DreadNot. Between us we bring decades of experience as divorce coaches, communication strategists, and consultants, we've spent our careers helping people navigate the hardest conversations of their lives. But we kept seeing the same thing: clients who did everything right and still got emails that made their stomachs drop. So we trained DreadNot's Guides using everything we know.
As a Happy Home guide and strategist, Erin helps women create a new happy home after divorce, where they and their children thrive. Erin is DreadNot's chief experience officer, so the Guides have to answer to her!
Eric is a futurist and technologist as well as a certified divorce coach helping men navigate divorce with confidence and integrity. As DreadNot's chief technology officer, he's proud to oversee the systems that keep people's inboxes safe.
Your questions, answered.
No. No "Powered by" tags, no metadata, no app on their end. When you reply, it arrives in their inbox as a normal email from your usual address. The only thing they'll notice is that you seem calmer.
Our Guides prioritize logistics first: dates, times, locations, money, child-related details. And the original email stays in your Gmail or Outlook untouched. We don't change anything in your actual account. The original is always one click away.
No. DreadNot works inside the email you already use. Ten minutes of setup, then it runs in the background. Read translated messages in our dashboard, or reply from Gmail or Outlook like normal, whichever feels easier.
Yes. Messages are processed securely and never used to train AI. If you cancel, we delete your translation history on request.
On the Sanctuary plan, yes, any time. Some people use Ace on ordinary days and switch to Owen on hard ones. Others find one voice and stay. The switch takes effect on the next incoming message.
We'll remind you on day 10 and day 13 that your trial is ending. On day 14, you'll receive an email with a link to add a card and continue. If you do nothing, DreadNot stops translating — your Gmail or Outlook settings stay exactly as they are, so you can remove the forwarding filter at any time. No hidden charges, no hoops.